RC v SC (45327/2021) [2022] ZAGPJHC 155; 2022 (4) SA 308 (GJ) (18 March 2022)

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Brief Summary

Children’s Act — Guardianship — Assignment of guardianship where child has existing guardian — Court's jurisdiction limited to cases where existing guardian is shown to be unsuitable — Applicant, a non-biological father, sought contact and guardianship over respondent's child — Respondent opposed application on grounds of applicant's lack of locus standi and unsuitability — Court held that if a child has a suitable guardian, another guardian cannot be appointed unless the existing guardian's unsuitability is established as a jurisdictional fact — Interests of the child paramount in determining applications for guardianship.

Comprehensive Summary

Summary of Judgment


1. Introduction


This was an opposed application in the High Court of South Africa, Gauteng Local Division, Johannesburg, concerning the assignment of non-parental rights in respect of a minor child under the Children’s Act 38 of 2005. The applicant sought, in the main application, an order granting him contact and care in terms of section 23, and joint guardianship in terms of section 24, in respect of the respondent’s four-year-old son, B. The applicant was not B’s biological father.


The proceedings were instituted in two parts, described as Part A (interim relief) and Part B (final relief). The judgment addressed Part A only. In Part A the applicant sought, pending the determination of Part B, an order directing that a clinical psychologist’s report be obtained on whether it would be in B’s best interests for the applicant to be granted care, contact, and guardianship, and also sought interim contact pending the determination of Part B.


The respondent opposed the relief in both parts. The opposition was grounded principally on two bases: first, that the applicant lacked locus standi to seek the relief contemplated in sections 23 and 24; and second, that the relief sought was not in the best interests of B (and also negatively affected the respondent’s other minor son, D, who was eleven years old).


The general subject-matter of the dispute concerned whether a non-biological, former cohabiting partner—who had formed a close relationship with a child—could obtain legally enforceable parental-type rights (including guardianship), and whether the court should facilitate that claim at an interim stage through expert assessment and interim contact.


2. Material Facts


The respondent was the biological mother and primary caregiver of two minor boys, D (aged 11) and B (born 5 December 2017). B and D had different fathers. B’s biological father played no role in B’s life; it was unclear whether he had acquired parental rights and responsibilities, and he was not joined in the proceedings and did not receive notice of them.


The applicant and respondent met in 2017. At the time the respondent was pregnant with B. Over the ensuing months, the applicant became increasingly involved in the respondent’s household and developed a strong relationship with B. In December 2018 the respondent and her sons moved in with the applicant. The parties lived together for approximately two and a half years.


It was common cause that the applicant and B formed a close bond. The applicant described a relationship in which B called him “Dada”, sought him out, and was emotionally attached to him. The respondent, however, characterised the applicant’s relationship with B as excessively intense and described it as “obsessive”. The court recorded that, even on the applicant’s version, the relationship consumed him.


A significant feature relied upon by the court was the effect of this family arrangement on D, the older child. The applicant said he attempted to include D but found it difficult to forge a relationship with him. The respondent alleged that the applicant was overtly irritable and unduly hard on D, and that D experienced the household dynamic as diminishing and psychologically harmful. It was not disputed that D suffered as a result of perceived favouritism, and the respondent described the relationship between D and the applicant as “toxic”, alleging that matters deteriorated to the point of D expressing suicidal ideation.


The relationship between the adults deteriorated. In late 2019 the respondent attempted to end the relationship. The court accepted that, during this period, the applicant furnished the respondent with a parenting plan in terms of which he sought parental rights and responsibilities in respect of both children. Although there was an attempt at reconciliation, the respondent indicated that financial constraints contributed to her remaining in the relationship for a period despite significant misgivings.


In October 2020 the parties moved into a new home in Northcliff. Around this period, a further set of facts emerged which the court treated as material to the applicant’s conduct and motives: D’s biological father (referred to in the judgment as C1) re-entered the picture after years without physical contact with D. The respondent alleged that the applicant had secretly approached C1 in late 2020, without the respondent’s knowledge, in connection with the brewing dispute about the applicant’s claimed rights to B. The respondent produced a transcript of a recorded conversation with C1 in which C1 indicated that the applicant had approached him, sought information, and that the applicant had paid some of C1’s legal fees relating to contact with D. The applicant did not deny insinuating himself into the lives of C1, the respondent, and D without the respondent’s knowledge, and justified this by reference to the idea that children should have “father figures”.


By the end of 2020 the respondent decided she and the children had to move out due to intolerable circumstances, especially for her and D. Correspondence ensued, including attorneys’ letters in which the applicant demanded contact arrangements and threatened litigation. The applicant moved out of the Northcliff home on 2 June 2021. By November 2021 the respondent was permitting contact every alternate Saturday and telephonic contact, but she later terminated contact entirely. She explained that the home atmosphere improved without the applicant and that the relationship between the brothers had an opportunity to mend. She also described video calls as emotionally intense and difficult for a young child, and as distressing for D.


Although the respondent initially agreed to the proposed psychological assessment, she later opposed Part A and Part B. She asserted that the assessment would negatively affect overall family relationships and thus B’s interests.


3. Legal Issues


The court was required to determine, in relation to Part A, whether it should order an interim process aimed at facilitating Part B—namely, an expert psychological assessment on the child’s best interests and interim contact pending final determination. The question was not treated as a purely procedural matter; rather, the court framed it as requiring an assessment of whether the child’s interests were served by allowing the applicant to embark upon the broader opposed litigation process at all.


A central legal question concerned locus standi: whether the applicant was a “person having an interest in the care, wellbeing or development of a child” as contemplated in section 23(1) (contact and care) and section 24(1) (guardianship). This required application of statutory criteria to the facts, informed by a value judgment rooted in the best interests of the child.


A further central interpretive issue concerned the meaning and effect of section 24(3) of the Children’s Act, which requires that where a child already has a guardian, an applicant for guardianship must provide reasons why the existing guardian is not suitable. The court treated this as an issue of statutory interpretation with jurisdictional consequences: whether, in the absence of an established unsuitability of an existing guardian, the court was empowered to appoint another guardian.


Finally, even assuming standing, the court addressed the substantive best-interests enquiry: whether granting the applicant any legally enforceable rights of care/contact (and, separately, guardianship) would serve B’s best interests, particularly in light of the family conflict and effects on both children.


4. Court’s Reasoning


The court began by setting out the statutory framework. It noted that section 23 permits “any person having an interest” in a child’s care, wellbeing or development to apply for contact or care, and that section 23(2) prescribes factors the court must consider, including the best interests of the child, the relationship between the applicant and the child, the applicant’s commitment, contributions to expenses, and any other relevant facts.


In relation to guardianship, the court emphasised that section 24 contemplates a more serious form of relief, reflected in the fact that applications for guardianship must be brought in the High Court. The court highlighted that guardianship concerns significant “milestone” decisions affecting a child’s legal status and movement beyond the court’s jurisdiction, and that section 24(2) obliges consideration of the best interests of the child and relevant relationships.


A key aspect of the court’s reasoning was its interpretation of section 24(3). The court held that where a child already has a guardian, the applicant must provide reasons why the existing guardian is not suitable, and that failure to do so is fatal. On a purposive interpretation, the court reasoned that if a child already has an available and capable guardian, there is no reason to appoint another. The court characterised the unsuitability of an existing guardian as a jurisdictional fact that must be established before the court is empowered to entertain the guardianship application.


The court then addressed the attempt to confine Part A to the narrow question whether an assessment “would do no harm”. It rejected this approach as misconceiving the judicial task. The court held that the enquiry was not merely whether the assessment process would be upsetting in isolation, but whether the child’s interests were served by allowing the applicant to pursue an opposed litigation process aimed at obtaining parental rights in the first place. Part A was thus treated as a means to an end, and the viability and appropriateness of that end informed the assessment of interim relief.


On locus standi, the court accepted that modern family structures often involve non-biological adults forming bonds with children. It nevertheless held that the depth of a “parental” connection is not, without more, sufficient to establish the necessary interest for standing under sections 23 and 24. The court stressed that the child had a competent, loving, and able mother (and a biological father who, though absent, existed and might have parental rights). It expressed the view that the applicant’s deep love and involvement had contributed to an inflated sense of entitlement to legal rights, and concluded that he had not established that he possessed the requisite interest to seek contact and care under section 23.


In relation to guardianship, the court’s standing analysis was reinforced by section 24(3). The court held that because the applicant had not submitted reasons establishing the respondent’s unsuitability as an existing guardian, the guardianship application could not be entertained. This was linked to a broader evaluative view that the Children’s Act reflects a recognition that it may not be in a child’s interests to multiply enforceable parental rights unnecessarily, because doing so can invite dissent and conflict.


Even if locus standi were assumed, the court reasoned that the applicant had not established that B’s best interests would be served by granting the applicant enforceable rights against the respondent and others. The court weighed the applicant’s claimed positive considerations—his love for B, his financial capacity, the child’s enjoyment of contact, and the applicant’s desire to fulfil a father role—against a range of factors militating against the relief.


Among the negative considerations the court treated as material were the absence of any showing that the respondent was an unsatisfactory caregiver or guardian; the court’s view that the applicant’s pursuit of fatherhood eclipsed perspective on his place in the child’s life; the breakdown of the adult relationship and the likelihood of dissonance in co-parenting; the prospect of protracted and unaffordable litigation; the negative effect of conflict on the child; the applicant’s attempts to impose his will on the respondent’s parenting; the alleged negative impact on the mother-child relationship and on the sibling relationship; and the applicant’s boundary-crossing conduct in approaching D’s father without the respondent’s knowledge. The court also considered it material that the applicant had not given regard to the rights of B’s biological father by ensuring notice of the proceedings.


The court concluded that the child’s interests would be negatively impacted by the continuation of the application and the relief sought. It expressed the view that the respondent’s termination of contact was a sensible decision taken in B’s best interests.


Finally, the court rejected the necessity of an expert opinion in the circumstances. It reasoned that obtaining an expert report had no real prospect of affecting the outcome it reached on the papers, and emphasised that determining the best interests of the child lay within the court’s province rather than that of an expert.


5. Outcome and Relief


The court dismissed Part A of the application. It therefore refused to order the obtaining of a clinical psychologist’s report for purposes of the interim stage, and refused interim contact pending Part B.


The applicant was ordered to pay the respondent’s costs in relation to Part A.


Cases Cited


No case law was cited in the judgment.


Legislation Cited


Children’s Act 38 of 2005.


Rules of Court Cited


No rules of court were cited in the judgment.


Held


The court held that section 24(3) of the Children’s Act requires an applicant for guardianship, where a child already has a guardian, to provide reasons demonstrating why the existing guardian is not suitable, and that this unsuitability is a jurisdictional fact which must be established before a court is empowered to appoint another guardian.


The court further held that a close, parental-type bond between a non-parent and a child does not, without more, establish the interest required for locus standi under sections 23 and 24, particularly where the child is adequately cared for by a natural parent.


The court held that, on the facts before it, it was not in the child’s best interests to permit the applicant to proceed through interim measures (expert assessment and interim contact) toward the acquisition of enforceable parental rights. Part A was dismissed with costs.


LEGAL PRINCIPLES


The judgment applied the principle that parental rights and responsibilities are not casually or randomly acquired; they are obtained and exercised in accordance with the statutory framework of the Children’s Act, and courts should be cautious in extending such rights to non-parents absent compelling justification.


It applied a purposive interpretation of section 24(3) of the Children’s Act 38 of 2005, holding that where a child already has at least one guardian, a court is not empowered to appoint another guardian unless the existing guardian is shown to be unsuitable. The unsuitability of the existing guardian is a jurisdictional prerequisite to entertaining the guardianship application.


The judgment applied the overarching principle that the best interests of the child govern applications under sections 23 and 24, while recognising that the Act’s structure reflects a concern that multiplying legally enforceable rights in relation to a child may needlessly generate conflict and dissent, which can be contrary to the child’s welfare.


It further applied the principle that, while expert evidence may assist, the determination of a child’s best interests remains a judicial function, and interim processes (such as ordering expert reports) should not be directed where, on the papers, such steps have no realistic prospect of altering the outcome and where the broader litigation itself is not shown to serve the child’s interests.

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RC v SC (45327/2021) [2022] ZAGPJHC 155; 2022 (4) SA 308 (GJ) (18 March 2022)

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REPUBLIC
OF SOUTH AFRICA
IN
THE HIGH COURT OF SOUTH AFRICA,
GAUTENG
LOCAL DIVISION, JOHANNESBURG
Case
Number:
45327/2021
REPORTABLE:
YES
OF
INTEREST TO OTHER JUDGES: YES
REVISED.
NO
3/18/2022
In the matter between:
C[....]
R[....]
Applicant
And,
C[....]
H[....]
S[....]
Respondent
JUDGMENT
Summary:
Children’s Act - meaning of section 24(3)- assignment of
guardianship where the child already has a suitable guardian.
Held:
in terms of s 24(3) - if a child already has at
least one guardian a court is not empowered to appoint another unless
the existing
guardian is shown to be unsuitable; the unsuitability of
the existing guardian is a jurisdictional fact which has to be
established
before the application can be entertained.
Held:
parental rights are, by their very nature, not randomly acquired.
They are seriously obtained and exercised under the letter the
of the
law.
Held:
If a child is adequately cared for by a primary
care-giver - such as a natural mother - there would need to be
compelling motivation
as to why another person should be accorded
legal rights the child.
Held:
There is, within the architecture in
the Children’s Act, relating to the affording of rights to
non-parents, a pervasive recognition
that to needlessly invite
dissent by increasing the number of people who have legally
enforceable rights in relation to a child
should be avoided in the
interests of the child.
FISHER J
Introduction
[1]
The
applicant seeks that he be granted rights of contact and care in
respect of the respondent’s four-year-old son, B[....]
C[....]
in terms of section 23 of the Children's Act (the Act)
[1]
,
as well as joint guardianship over the child under section 24. The
applicant is not the biological father. The application is
brought in
two parts – A and B.
[2]
This judgment is in respect of part A. It is sought that,
interim to the adjudication of Part B, the Court order that the
report
of a clinical psychologist be obtained in relation to whether
it is in the interests of B[....], that the care, contact and
guardianship
sought by the applicant in Part B be granted to him. The
applicant also seeks that I order interim contact pending the
determination
of Part B.
[3]
The respondent opposes the relief in both parts A and B on the
bases that the applicant lacks locus standi and that, in any event,

the relief sought in both parts is not in the interests of B[....] or
the respondent’s other minor son, D[....] who is eleven.
Legal
principles
[4]
Section 23(1) of the Act provides that ‘
[A]ny person having an interest in the
care, wellbeing or development of a child may apply to the High
Court, a divorce court in
divorce matters or the children’s
court for an order granting to the applicant, on such conditions as
the court may deem
necessary an order granting to the applicant, on
such conditions as the court may deem necessary—
(a)
contact with the child; or
(b)
care of the child.’
[5]
In terms of subparagraph (2) the court
considering such an application must take into account—

(a)
the best interests of the child;
(b)
the relationship between the applicant and the child, and any other
relevant person and the child;
(c)
the degree of commitment that the applicant has shown towards the
child;
(d)
the extent to which the applicant has contributed towards expenses in
connection with the birth and maintenance of the child;
and
(e)
any other fact that should, in the opinion of the court, be taken
into account.’
[6]
Section 24 deals with the assignment of
guardianship. Subsection (1) provides that a person having an
interest in the care, wellbeing
and development of a child may apply
to the High Court for an order granting guardianship of the child to
the applicant.
[7]
The fact that resort must be had to the
High Court for an application for guardianship shows that the
Legislature regards such an
application as one having a greater
degree of seriousness that an application under section 23 which
allows lower courts to hear
the latter application.
[8]
In terms of section 24(2) a court
considering an application for guardianship the court must take into
account—
(‘a)
the best interests of the child;
(b)
the relationship between the applicant and the child, and any other
relevant person and the child; and
(c)
any other fact that should, in the opinion of the court, be taken
into account.’
[9]
Subsection (3) provides furthermore that,
if the child already has a guardian, the applicant must submit
reasons as to why the child’s
existing guardian is not suitable
to have guardianship in respect of the child.
[10]
As
I have said, there are two parts to this application. It is submitted
on behalf of the applicant that all that I need determine,
at this
point in the proceedings, is whether it is in the best interests of
B[....] that the assessment be done and that contact
be allowed
pending the receipt of the assessment report and the subsequent
application for final relief under Part B. Furthermore,
Is my enquiry
a limited one that has regard only to the interim order sought or
does it take account of the fact that such an order
is a means to an
end- i.e. the granting of final relief for parental rights - which
end must also be considered?
[11]
Mr
Botha for the applicant seems to favour the former approach. He
argues that the process of assessment would not be unduly upsetting

for the child in that the proposed clinical psychologist, Ms Lynette
Roux is experienced and will be sensitive to handling the
assessment
in a manner which is not likely to cause distress. His submission is
that such an assessment would do no harm.
[12]
To
my mind, such an approach begs the real question. The judicial task
here encompasses, not a consideration of the interests of
the child
in undergoing the assessment process alone but rather an overarching
consideration of whether, on what is before me,
the interests of the
child are served by allowing the applicant to embark on an opposed
litigation process in the first place.
[13]
As
I have said, it is disputed, in any event, that the applicant has the
requisite interest to bring the application.
[14]
I
will consider the issues of
locus standi
and the interests of B[....] in the context of the application as a
whole, after examining the facts.
Facts
[15]
The
applicant is a fifty-two-year-old divorced chartered accountant. He
is not able to father children. This has, understandably,
been a
source of pain to him.
[16]
It
appears from a psychological report attached to his founding
affidavit that he previously married a woman, Ilsa who was the mother

of two primary school children. He stated that he became a ‘father
figure’ to these children. The applicant and Ilsa
badly wanted
a child of their own. They repeatedly underwent In Vitro
Fertilization (IVF) but without success.
[17]
There
are indications that all was not plain sailing as far as the
parenting of these children was concerned. One child was diagnosed

with a condition known as Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder
(ADHD) which apparently caused some problems in the parental

relationship because the child became difficult for the applicant to
discipline. This was a factor leading to the breakdown of
the
marriage. The applicant’s ex-wife now resides in Dubai with her
children.
[18]
During
2017 the applicant and the respondent met on the dating platform
known as
Tinder
. At the time of their meeting the respondent
was pregnant with B[....] and D[....] was six. D[....] and B[....]
have different
fathers.
[19]
B[....]’s
father has played no role in his life and it is not clear whether he
has acquired parental rights and responsibilities
in relation to
B[....]. He has neither been joined in these proceedings nor been
given notice of them. D[....]’s father,
C[....]1 is a
protagonist in these proceedings although not a party. His entrance
onto the scene is contentious and is dealt with
later.
[20]
The
respondent states that initially she did not want romantic
relationship with the applicant
.
She
explains that being pregnant and the mother of a six-year-old this
was not a good time to enter into a new relationship. She
had, she
says, joined
Tinder
for companionship only.
[21]
B[....]
was born on 5 December 2017.
WhatsApp
communications between
the parties around that time show that the applicant was supportive
and expressed much interest in B[....].
[22]
During
the next three months the relationship between the parties grew and
the applicant began spending a lot of time with
the respondent and
her sons. He became a fixture in their lives and grew closer to
B[....] and more involved in his life.
[23]
The
applicant eventually asked the respondent to move in with him, which
she did in December 2018. B[....] was then one year old.
The
applicant and B[....] grew closer still.
[24]
The
applicant describes this bonding process as follows:

As
B[....] grew older we became inseparable. A close and loving bond had
formed between us. When B[....] started talking one of
his first
words were "Dada". He wanted to shadow me wherever I went.
He would ask me to lie down with him at night until
he fell asleep.
In the mornings I would be the first one B[....] would come looking
for with his blanket, calling "Dada, Dada",
and then get in
bed with me.’
[25]
The
respondent states that she soon began to feel uncomfortable with the
intensity of the relationship which the applicant was engendering

between himself and B[....]. The respondent describes it as
‘obsessive’. I observe that, on the applicant’s own

version, the relationship consumes him.
[26]
The
extreme closeness between the applicant and B[....] did not take
account of the feelings of D[....]. The applicant says
that he tried
to include D[....] in his parental largess but that it was difficult
to forge a relationship with him. The respondent
says that the
applicant was overtly irritable and unduly hard on D[....]. The
result was that D[....] was left feeling that he
could not compete
for the applicant’s affections. He felt unwanted and diminished
and this took a toll on him psychologically.
[27]
The
respondent says also that the way in which the applicant related to
her was not typical of a loving partner. She expresses that
he was
always more interested in B[....] than he was in her. More concerning
is that she expresses that the obsessive relationship
which the
applicant has pursued with B[....] has entailed a process of
alienation of her from B[....] and B[....] from D[....].
[28]
The
behaviour of the applicant has clearly caused this family great pain.
It is not disputed that D[....] has suffered as a result
of the
favouritism. The respondent describes the relationship between
D[....] and the applicant as ‘toxic.’ She expresses
that
things deteriorated to a point where D[....] expressed suicidal
ideation.
[29]
There
are photographs attached by both the respondent and the applicant as
‘evidence’ of the relationships. One such
photograph is
of the applicant remonstrating with D[....]. The fact that the
respondent found it necessary to document the relationship
between
D[....] and the applicant suggests a fear of litigation. The fact the
applicant has done so shows a garnering of ammunition
against the
respondent to be used in the event that the respondent tried to take
B[....] away from him. Clearly the applicant’s
designs in
respect of parental rights to B[....] were central to the family
dynamic.
[30]
In
late 2019 the respondent attempted to terminated the relationship.
She, says the applicant made no genuine attempt to repair
the
relationship with her as this was not his primary consideration.
Instead, he furnished her with a parenting plan in terms of
which he
required that he be afforded parental rights and responsibilities in
respect of both D[....] and B[....].
[31]
There
was, thereafter, an attempt at reconciliation. The respondent
concedes that her financial constraints were part of the
reason she
stayed with the applicant even though she had significant misgivings
about his relationship with her sons. The respondent
is a nursery
school teacher and has limited resources. The applicant, on the other
hand, has been generous in his financial support
of the children and
especially B[....]. He undertakes to continue to contribute to
B[....]’s expenses should he be successful
in the application.
[32]
The
parties moved into the applicant’s new home in Northcliff on 25
October 2020. It was hoped that this would be a new beginning
and
that the relationships within the family would improve. The applicant
had undertaken to do his best to make D[....] feel loved
and
included.
[33]
It
was around this time that D[....]’s father, C[....]1 was
brought into the fray. The respondent explains that, at this point,

C[....]1 had not had physical contact with D[....] for many years.
She alleges that her and C[....]1’s relationship had ended

violently and that she had been forced to obtain an interim domestic
violence order to keep C[....]1 away from her. The respondent
alleges
that after the break-up C[....]1 did not take an interest in D[....]
and never paid maintenance. Clearly, there were significant
issues
between C[....]1 and the respondent.
[34]
The
respondent says she was thus shocked to be told by C[....]1 during
2021 that the applicant had secretly approached him towards
the end
of 2020 with a view to involving him in the dispute which was brewing
in relation to the applicant’s rights to B[....]
. The
respondent taped the conversation with C[....]1 in which he told her
this. Part of a transcript attached to the respondent’s

answering affidavit reads as follows:

C[....]1
:
Me and R[....] know each other a year, what actually happened was
R[....] came to Checkers and came and see me before, I think
it was
last year November, last year September, he came to me and he said to
me he wants to see me and I didn't know who's this
guy. So he didn't
tell me he knows you, so he called the school he said to the school
listen he needs to find out who I am and
there's things I need to
talk and the school told me and I said no, I don't know the person
because I scared.
Respondent
:
Which school called you?
C[....]1
:
No he called the school, [inaudible 0:01:41] school, so I'm scared.
So I thought its maybe somebody that wants to take me out,
so I told
Mr Roy, I told Aunty Ella and they said no go, and I went and then he
said to me right this is what's going to happen,
that's how I
actually met him and he told me this is what he wants and then from
thereon.
Respondent:
What did he want?
C[....]1
:
He actually said to me you are, he just need to know how did we live,
so I told him the whole story last year and I said to him
no listen
me and Hen 0:02:04] had a fight and that's how it be, and then he
said then I think Bernice's lawyer and his lawyer came
together and
now I'm, they thing. So what actually happened was then R[....] from
thereon wants to know every time what you do,
how did you fight with
me and all this and what did we go through.’
[35]
The
C[....]1’s explanations are somewhat garbled but the
conversation gives a sense of C[....]1’s understanding of what

the applicant wanted from him and the lengths that the applicant was
prepared to go to in his quest to gain parental rights in
respect of
B[....].
[36]
C[....]1
goes on in the transcript to say that he had been asked to give a
statement in this case to assist the applicant
– but that he
had refused. He stated also that the applicant had paid some of his
(C[....]1’s) legal fees relating
to the acquisition of contact
with D[....].
[37]
The
applicant does not deny that he insinuated himself into the lives of
C[....]1, the respondent, and D[....] without the knowledge
of the
respondent. He says that he thinks that children should ‘have
father figures’ and in this way seeks to justify
the his
intrusive behaviour.
[38]
The
respondent surmises that the applicant contacted C[....]1 in a bid to
bring D[....]s father into his life and thus take
some of the
pressure off the applicant in relation to D[....]’s needs for a
father figure. It seems that he also hoped to
source information from
C[....]1 as to the respondent’s conduct in their relationship
in the hope that it would help him
to build a case against the
respondent.
[39]
Whatever
his motivations, the applicant’s machinations did lead to a
contact regime coming into place between D[....] and
C[....]1.
[40]
The
respondent has sought to navigate this contact in such a way that it
does not exacerbate D[....]’s misery. The applicant,
it seems,
has been less than accommodating of this position. On his own version
he has means and likes to spoil B[....]. This inevitably
leads to
D[....]’s feeling of rejection and inadequacy being fuelled.
C[....]1 does not have the means and perhaps not the
inclination to
compete with the experiences offered by the applicant to B[....].
[41]
Towards
the end of 2020, the respondent decided that she and the boys had to
move out of the Northcliff house as things had
become intolerable,
especially for her and D[....]. This was conveyed to the applicant.
It seems that it was around this time that
the applicant contacted
C[....]1 for the purposes of building a case for parental rights to
B[....].
[42]
In
the months leading up to the intended move, the respondent received a
letter from the applicant’s attorney demanding
that she submit
proposals as to how contact would work after she moved out and
threatening litigation if she did not agree to contact.
On 12 April
2021 she received another of the applicant’s parenting plans.
[43]
The
applicant moved out of the Northcliff house on 2 June 2021.
[44]
The
correspondence around this time shows that the respondent was
prepared to allow some contact between the applicant and the boys,

albeit reluctantly. She explains that she was concerned that B[....]
would keenly feel the absence of the applicant but also that
she was
intimidated by threats of litigation – which she could ill
afford. At the same time, she knew that she needed to
accommodate the
difficulties that the intensity of the bond that the applicant had
engendered between himself and B[....] had visited
on her family.
[45]
The
respondent emerges as a caring and sensitive mother who has been
attempting to do her best to deal with integrating the fraught

relationships which the applicant had formed with her sons and
herself over the two and a half years that the family lived with
him.
[46]
The
respondent says that the applicant is manipulative and controlling.
He proposed marriage during early 2021 by way of handing
the
respondent vouchers for an engagement ring. This somewhat lacklustre
proposal was accepted but the engagement was broken off
shortly
thereafter. She says she knew that he did not have any real love for
her. The respondent simply returned the vouchers to
the applicant’s
closet. Nothing was said of this after such return of the vouchers.
[47]
The
applicant sates the following in relation to the respondent moving
out:

I
felt powerless as the boys, and particularly B[....], were ripped
from my life. I was very distressed about the move, and the
prospect
of not seeing them again. My life seemed to lose meaning. I cannot
begin to describe the sadness I felt when alone in
the spacious
family home in Northcliff, surrounded only with memories of the life
we previously had together.’
[48]
04
June 2021 applicant’s attorney Pieter C[....] wrote to the
respondent. The letter underscored that the applicant was ‘intent

on maintaining contact with the boys.’ The following threat was
levelled:

Your
apparent refusal to permit our client contact with the boys , and in
particular B[....] leaves our client with no alternative
(sic) to
approach the High Court for the appropriate relief, on an urgent
basis. Our client will in addition seek an order for
costs against
you in view of the fact that you have been given ample opportunity to
comply with our client’s reasonable suggestions
in so far as
contact with the boys are(sic) concerned.’
[49]
By
July 2021 the parties were in full blown legal conflict.
[50]
As at
the date of the signing of the answering affidavit, being 01 November
2021, the respondent was allowing contact every alternate
Saturday
from 08h00 to 17h00 and telephonic contact three times a week.
[51]
She
has now taken the decision to terminate contact. She concedes that
B[....] initially did ask about the applicant’s absence.

However, she says, as the weeks have worn on, this has become less
frequent.
[52]
She
says also that she had begun to have difficulty getting B[....] to
interact with the applicant by way of video call. She
explains that
the calls were often not light hearted and enjoyable for B[....] but
were of an intensity which was inappropriate
for telephonic
engagement with a three year old. She describes the applicant telling
B[....] how much he loved and missed him repeatedly
until B[....]
became emotionally overwhelmed and tearful. The following vignette of
family life sketches a compelling scene:

The
difficulty that I have is the way the Applicant talks to B[....]. He
is always talking about a gift he gave to him, that his
fish are
missing him [ a gift from the applicant], that he loves him etc.
D[....] overhears this and becomes extremely distressed.
I try my
best to not let D[....] hear the calls any more. Sometimes the 2 boys
are watching TV together when the Applicant calls.
B[....] is a three
year old so he gets distracted very easily. The Applicant will tell
B[....] to turn off the TV so that he is
not distracted which impacts
on D[....] watching TV. The calls are very difficult to monitor and
control.’
[53]
She
says that the atmosphere in her home has become more relaxed and less
fraught with the exclusion of the applicant therefrom.
Most
importantly, she says that she perceives that the relationship
between the brothers is being given a chance to mend now that
the
fierce sibling rivalry has abated.
[54]
The
applicant is understandably distraught at the loss of contact to
B[....]. He states the following;

I
cannot imagine life without B[....] in it and I am certain that he
feels the same. I am extremely concerned that a separation
from me
for too long will cause irreparable harm to our relationship, apart
from damage and/or trauma to B[....]'s psyche;’
[55]
The
respondent, after having initially agreed to the assessment sought in
Part A, now opposes both parts of the application. She
explains that
she has realised that a psychological assessment as prayed for in
part A will tend to have a negative impact on the
family
relationships as a whole and thus on B[....]. The respondent says
also C[....]1 has not agreed to the assessment of D[....]
as part of
that inquiry whereas the applicant says that C[....]1 has agreed.
[56]
I now
move to deal with the issues for consideration as outlined above.
Issues
for consideration
Locus
standi
[57]
The applicant and the respondent lived
together for a period of 2½ years. During that
period the
applicant appears to have become fixated with becoming B[....]’s
father. This kind of loving fixated affection
given by an adult to a
very young child will inevitably have the result of the attachment of
the child to the adult. The more intense
the fixation the more likely
it is for a co-dependency to grow between the two.
[58]
It is not unusual for people, in this
day and age, to form extended families. Indeed, some may
argue that
the nuclear family is no longer the norm. This results in biological
parents living with non-biological parents who
inevitably form bonds
with the children that they are co-parenting in these living
arrangements. Often the relationships do not
have much commitment to
permanency.
[59]
One would expect in this context that
there be a recognition that children are fragile and impressionable

and that the parent-child connection is profound. People should adopt
a measured and responsible approach to forming deep emotional
ties
with children.
[60]
The depth of the ‘parental’
connection which has been established is not,
without more, enough to
afford an applicant the necessary
locus standi.
Put
differently, it does not follow, as the applicant seeks to suggest,
that merely because there is a loving relationship between
a person
and a child which has parental hallmarks that, such person
automatically has the necessary interest contemplated in sections
23
and 24 of the Act.
[61]
This child has two biological parents;
a competent, loving, and able mother and an absent biological
father
who may or may not have acquired parental rights.
[62]
Implicit
in these sections of the Act and particularly section 24 is that a
child is not necessarily benefited by more than
one person having
parental rights in respect of that child. It may ‘
take
village to raise a child’
[2]
but this does not mean that parental rights should be universally
enjoyed and easily obtained. Such rights are, by their very nature,

not randomly acquired. They are seriously obtained and exercised
under letter of the law.
[63]
It seems to me that, because of his
deep love for B[....] and the intimate part he has played
in his
up-bringing thus far, the applicant has acquired an inflated sense of
his entitlement to legal rights under the Act. This
is presumptuous.
To my mind, the applicant has not established that he is a person
with the necessary interest to seek the relief
that he does in
respect of contact and care.
[64]
The misguided application for
guardianship rights reinforces this sense of a deep misunderstanding

by applicant of his entitlement to legal rights under the Act.
[65]
The legal position in relation to the
right to be made guardian has even more stringent requirements
than
rights of contact and care. This is because the rights relate to
milestone matters such as formal consents necessary to achieve

legality in relation to important aspects of the child’s life -
such as the change in his status or his movement beyond the
court’s
jurisdiction.
[66]
Section 24
(2)(b)
provides that a court considering an application for guardianship
must, inter alia, consider ‘the relationship between
the
applicant and the child and any other relevant person and the child.’
[67]
This peremptory
requirement proceeds from the acceptance that there may be competing
guardianship rights. A question which is specifically
to be
considered by a court in determining whether the aspirant guardian
has
locus standi
is whether the child already has a suitable guardian.
[68]
Section
24(3)
[3]
requires that the
applicant must submit reasons as to why the child’s existing
guardian is not suitable. If this is not done,
as is the case here,
this is fatal to the application. The non-suitability of the existing
guardian is a jurisdictional fact needed
for the court to entertain
the application. This is because, on a purposive interpretation, the
provisions of section 24(3) mean
that, if the child has an available
and capable guardian there is no reason to appoint another.
[69]
I perceive within
the architecture in the Act relating to the affording of rights to
non-parents, a pervasive recognition that to
needlessly invite
dissent by increasing the number of people who have legally
enforceable rights in relation to a child should
be avoided in the
interests of the child.
[70]
In sum,
If
the child is properly cared for by a primary care-giver – such
as a natural mother - there would, to my mind, need to be
compelling
motivation as to why another person should be accorded legal rights
to the child; and, in the case of an application
for guardianship, if
the child already has a guardian who cannot be shown by the applicant
to be unsatisfactory the application
cannot succeed.
[71]
The the applicant
has, in any event, failed to make out a case on the merits as far as
care and contact rights are concerned.
[72]
I thus move to
examine the case on the merits more closely.
The
case on the merits
[73]
Assuming
locus
standi
, I still am of the view that the
applicant has not established that the best interests of B[....] are
served by granting the applicant
any legal rights which are
enforceable by the applicant against the respondent, B[....]’s
father, B[....]e himself and generally.
[74]
The aspects of the
case that inure to a finding that the applicant should be accorded
rights of contact and care are the following:
·
He loves B[....] and wants his
happiness and wellbeing.
·
He has funds which will allow for a
meeting of B[....]’s needs above those that the respondent can
offer.
·
B[....],
notwithstanding his tender years, has evidenced that he has obtained
comfort, succour and enjoyment from contact with the
applicant. The
applicant interprets this as an acknowledgment that B[....] (and all
children for that matter)‘need a father’.
·
The applicant wishes to be B[....]’s
father in all senses of the role.
[75]
The aspects
militating against the relief sought are the following:
·
The applicant has not shown that the
respondent is an unsatisfactory guardian or caregiver.
·
The respondent’s drive to be ‘a
father’ seems to eclipse the interests of B[....] and lead to a
lack of perspective
as to the applicant’s place and function in
the life of the child.
·
The applicant puts his own needs ahead of
the respondent and her sons.
·
The relationship between the
respondent and the applicant has broken down to an extent that there
is bound to be dissonance in a
co-parenting relationship.
·
The effect of this breakdown and the
applicant’s inflated sense of his position within the
relationship is that, if the he
is allowed to pursue this
application, this will lead to protracted conflict and litigation –
which the respondent can ill
afford.
·
The conflict between the parties is having
and will, in all likelihood, continue to have a negative effect on
the manner in which
contact to and care of B[....] is being
exercised.
·
The applicant seeks to impose his will on
the respondent in relation to her parenting of both B[....] and
D[....] to the exclusion
of her wishes and the needs of the children.
·
The relationship between the applicant and
B[....] has caused a situation where the filial relationship between
B[....] and his
mother is negatively affected.
·
D[....] is profoundly affected by the
manner in which the applicant has related to him and to B[....].
·
The relationship between the whole family –
i.e. the respondent and her sons individually and together is
negatively impacted
upon by the applicant’s presence in the
relationship.
·
The applicant’s interactions with
B[....] are, at times, overly emotional and inappropriate given
B[....]’s age.
·
The insinuation by the applicant of himself
into the relationship between the respondent and C[....]1 in relation
to D[....] suggests
(i) that the applicant does not respect other
people’s boundaries;(ii) that the applicant is not mindful of
the respondent’s
right to make her own decisions as to her
children; and (iii)that the applicant believes that he is entitled to
manipulate circumstances
to further his aims regardless of the
consequences of those involved.
·
The applicant believes that his relative
wealth will give him an advantage over the respondent.
·
The applicant’s intimidation of the
respondent in the context of this litigation is inappropriate.
·
The applicant has had no respect for the
respondent’s autonomy as a parent.
·
The respondent has given no regard to the
rights of B[....]’s biological father in that he has not given
him notice of this
application.
[76]
On a balancing of these aspects,there
is, to my mind no question that the interests of B[....]
will not be
negatively impacted upon by the application and the relief sought.
Conclusion
[77]
If I am wrong in my decision that the
applicant has failed to establish
locus standi,
on a
consideration of the facts, it is my view that the last thing that
B[....] needs is a father in the guise of the applicant
with power
over his life and family.
[78]
It seems to me that in stopping
contact between the applicant and B[....], the respondent
has acted
as a sensible mother and in the best interests of B[....].
[79]
The resort to the opinion of an
expert, to my mind, has no prospect of having any real effect
on the
findings in this judgment. It is within this Court’s province
and function to determine the interests of the child
and not that of
the expert.
[80]
It is my view that this
application should go no further and that the respondent’s

decision to revoke all contact between B[....] and the applicant
should stand firm so that B[....] and his family can move past
the
pain that the relationship has caused.
Order
[81]
I thus order as follows:
Part
A of the application is dismissed with costs.
FISHER
J
HIGH
COURT JUDGE
GAUTENG
LOCAL DIVISION, JOHANNESBURG
Date
of Hearing:
11 March 2022.
Judgment
Delivered:
18 March 2022
APPEARANCES:
For
the Applicant
: Adv
J G Botha.
Instructed
by

:
Coetzee Duvenage Inc.
For
the Respondent
:
Adv T Eichner-Visser.
Instructed
by

:
Keyes Attorneys.
[1]
38 of 2005.
[2]

It
takes a village to raise a child

is an African proverb that means that an entire community of
people must provide for and interact positively with
children for
those children to experience and grow in a safe and healthy
environment.
[3]
Section 24(3) reads as follows:

In
the event of a person applying for guardianship of a child that
already has a guardian, the applicant must submit reasons as
to why
the child’s existing guardian is not suitable to have
guardianship in respect of the child.’